B and G

I once heard of a story between a boy, B and and a girl, G. B was sure that G was the significant half that he has always being waiting for and so, he told her about his feelings. B knows that G had some feelings for him too but she was not confident of committing into a relationship after being hurt in the previous one. She was worried what if B turns out in the end to be like her previous one. How could she possibly regain her trust of a guy after having her heart shattered to pieces? What if B gets tired of her one day and looks at another direction? What if the passionate fire of courtship turns into a cold meaningless routine in the future? She just knows that if she goes into another relationship, she also has to prepare for the possibility of feeling the sting of a breakup and she does not want to go through that tormenting painful sensation again.

B has also considered about the two years down the road where he would be leaving the country to study in England for one year. G wonders if their relationship could stand the test of time of being apart. However, B wants to tell G that when that time comes, there would not pass a single day where he would not think about her when he is abroad. He would miss her every single day. It is an obstacle but with the grace and guidance of God, B would do all he can to make sure that G is not left out or feel alone. When the relationship comes out from that trial of fire, it would be even stronger than before. The distance makes the heart grow fonder. B has never doubted his level of loyalty because he knows that he has God to guide him through all of it.

Right now, B just wants G to know that he wants to be part of the healing process of her emotional hurt and pick up the pieces of her shattered confidence and put it back together. He wants to be her pillar of support when she's feeling sad and down. B wants to be her companion in the journey of life together and shares his moment of joys with her. B wants G to look at it in another perspective. What if it works out in the end? What if B is unlike the others? In order to overcome our fears and worries, we need to face it and stare at it in the eye. All humans fall at some point of time, and we could only go further in life if we learn to pick ourselves up from our falls. G does not need to pick herself up alone because B would do it together with her to overcome her hurts. Relationship has two elements in it - either the mysterious passionate or the regulated pragmatism. If its just mysterious passionate, it is a relationship that is reckless and based on physical lust with no regards of future plans. If its just the safe regulated pragmatism, the relationship would turn out more like a business contract than natural emotions. A successful relationship has a fusion of both, the mysterious passion to keep the fire burning and the pragmatism to keep its rationality grounded along with other ingredients like trust, understanding and knowledge of responsiblity.

B will continue to wait for the day when G would hold his hand as a sign of her trust.